Divided loyalties hinder people. Sharing your disapproval of a coach with your children puts them in a bind. Conversely, when parents support a coach, it is easier for children to put forth maximum effort. If you think your child’s coach is mishandling a situation, do not tell your child. Ask for a meeting with the coach.
If you find yourself repeatedly feeling like you have to let the official know he's made a bad call, sign up to officiate next season.
Avoid yelling verbs. When you’re watching a game you should enthusiastically support all the players.Cheer their effort and successes, but if you are yelling verbs like run, throw, slide, you are coaching.
After a game, regardless of the result, move on to something else your child will enjoy.
To excel, your children must love the game enough to work at it. Pressuring them to excel can sap that love. You can nurture this love of playing by noticing and recognizing them for specific things they're doing well.
Let your kids know that whether or not they win or lose, you will still love them and will be proud of them. Kids see how much their parents are investing (time and money) in their sports, and they worry they'll upset their parents with anything other than victory.
Before you go out and spend a lot of money on new equipment, stop by a neighbor, or someone you know, who has grown kids and ask if they are looking to get rid of any baseball equipment. The mother of the house will lay out a red carpet for you. And if a baseball glove is involved, it will be broken in well.
Help your young athlete to understand the value of a good opponent. Good opponents bring out the best in us. Model this attitude by talking about opponents respectfully. Never demonize the opponent as "the enemy".
As soon as you know who your child’s coach is going to be, introduce yourself, let him or her know you want to help your child have the best possible experience and offer to assist the coach in any way you are able. Meeting the coach early and establishing a positive relationship will make conversation easier if a problem arises during the season.
If your child's coach does not call a parent meeting before the season starts, ask for one. You could even offer to organize it for the coach.
General Youth Sports Tip
For the holidays parents love to buy sports equipment for their kids such as baseball gloves, bats etc. With potential big growth spurts in some kids, parents should consider waiting on some of these items until a little before the season starts. Items that fit in December might be small in April.
Coaching your own child can offer some of life's greatest moments, though it requires a delicate balance between coaching and parenting. Make it clear to your child when you are in coach "mode." Be sensitive to favoring or penalizing your child.
Youth sports create a unique environment where players can take responsibility for their own learning. So, as hard as it may be at times, resist providing feedback 100% of the time.
The "ultimate fan" has been described by some in our youth sports community as somebody who can cheer for great plays by both teams. Give this a try and watch the good will that is generated."